Happiness

Happiness comes from within. If you choose to be happy, no one and no thing can ever take that away from you. What an amazing gift we are entrusted with – choice, and the ability to be happy.  We have the freedom to choose one thing over another, one feeling over another. We are allowed …

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Grace

The beauty of grace is that you receive blessings for no reason. As above, so below. Practice random acts of grace. Give to others for no reason, offer kindness to those who are undeserving, love those who no one else loves. Practice grace. This perhaps might be the most difficult path one can be on. …

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Friendship

To love people who love you is easy. Choose to be everyone’s friend, whether they like you or not. When you love and accept others as they are, you will have friends everywhere. The first step is to become friends with yourself. This may sound silly, but it’s very true. Many people live lives of …

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Forgiveness

Forgive yourself and everyone around you. When you judge others, you are the one who feels pain. Through forgiveness all pain disappear. Imagine a world where we all forgave each other. Imagine your home, where you all forgave each other. Imagine yourself, where you forgave – YOU! Forgiveness always starts with you. If you are …

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Ego

Those who say they know, do not know. Those who say they do not know. also don’t know. Therefore, be quiet and let your actions speak for themselves. They speak much louder than your words anyway. What an incredible obstacle to overcome.  The feeling of an ego has infultrated our society throughout all walks of …

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Apr
04

Happiness

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Happiness comes from within. If you choose to be happy, no one and no thing can ever take that away from you.

What an amazing gift we are entrusted with – choice, and the ability to be happy.  We have the freedom to choose one thing over another, one feeling over another. We are allowed to choose the path of life that we want to travel. Again, what an amazing gift!

Many people simply aren’t aware that all things are possible. That, all things are a choice. You can choose to live in a certain geographical location. You can choose to work for a certain company or for yourself. You also get to choose the people that you surround yourself with on a regular basis.

Yes, all of these things mentioned are choices that we are allowed and privledged to make.  If you haven’t realized it by now, you also choose the way you feel. I’ll say that again – you choose the way you feel. When you are in a situation that the reactive response would be to get angry  or defensive you must realize that, at that moment the “desicion threshold” as I call it, is the moment you can CHOOSE to not get angry or defensive. In fact, you can choose to have a positive outlook on the circumstance. Simply choose to be happy at the moment and you will be happy at that moment.

If you start to recognize the “triggers” that arise in all situations, you will be able to make an appropriate emotional response. And, the more that you are aware of this power over your feelings that you indeed have, the easier it becomes outwardly apparent. The result is a happier you!

Yes, there are many things that we cannot control in our lives. We cannot control what others do or think. The only thing in life that we really have control over is ourselves. And that in itself is more powerful than any other force in nature.

I challenge you to put this powerful force to work FOR you , rather than against you, or allowing it  to be passive in your life

Remember – you can’t change anyone else in life, you can only change you!

Live WITH this force and you will be happy!

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Mar
15

Grace

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The beauty of grace is that you receive blessings for no reason. As above, so below. Practice random acts of grace. Give to others for no reason, offer kindness to those who are undeserving, love those who no one else loves. Practice grace.

This perhaps might be the most difficult path one can be on. To be kind to those who are not kind, either to us or in general, is a hard pill to swallow.  To take it further, try showing love to those who are unreceptive to love. These people are all around us, they are everywhere.  People who live outside of the laws of God, nature, and man.  Yet grace asks us to care about them. To help them. To love them.

When we examine our own lives, and I mean really look deep within ourselves, we sometimes find that there are things that each of us do that others may look at and find fault with. They could point the finger at us and say “who are you that you deserve kindness and love?”

The point here is that no one is perfect. To strive for perfection is a fault in its own right. None of us is, or ever will be, perfect. We can only achieve the best that we can achieve.   So always do your best and be happy with the results. Those results can be examined to see where you can improve. This is how we become better people. People that can live in harmony with others.  That harmony is where “grace” lives. Grace is the substance that can bind us together. It causes us to care for those who may really need someone to care for them, but are troubled individuals that society deems unworthy of love and kindness. It’s easy to judge someone else.  It is very difficult to judge yourself.

Grace, kindness, and love are all things that we need to practice to become better at. And there is no limit to the amount that you can give out.

Make it part of your day to intentionally do random acts of kindness towards people. In the end you will find that by doing these acts,  YOU are the one who really gains the most.

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Mar
05

Friendship

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To love people who love you is easy. Choose to be everyone’s friend, whether they like you or not. When you love and accept others as they are, you will have friends everywhere.

The first step is to become friends with yourself. This may sound silly, but it’s very true. Many people live lives of regret and dissatisfaction with themselvess throughout their entire life. Thus rendering them unable to reach their full potential. Also, living a life without anyone close to you to be able to share joys and burdens with, extracts you from the ability to achieve the ultimate friendship.

If you can’t be a friend to yourself, you can’t be a friend to anyone else. You may have many acquaintances throughout your life, but not any deeply valuable true friendship or people that you can rely on-no matter what. As social creatures we need the element of friendship to connect the parts of our lives that would otherwise seem discontent.

How do you become a friend to yourself? Well it starts by forgiving your past mistakes and letting go of all that baggage that has tethered your inner growth as a person, to mere existence.  No one wants to just exist. We want to thrive, and be part of something that is bigger than ourselves.

Your next step is to accept others as they are. None of us are perfect, we all have faults.  This can be extremely difficult..  Some people would harbor the ill notion that accepting others and being “friends” with them is simply unimaginable, or that it would show a flaw in you, but this is not the case. Rather, it would show inner strength on your part.

The worse that can happen is that you have a happier and more peaceful existence and alot of friends throughout your life.   Not a bad bargain for walking on such a noble path.

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Feb
10

Forgiveness

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Forgive yourself and everyone around you. When you judge others, you are the one who feels pain. Through forgiveness all pain disappear.

Imagine a world where we all forgave each other. Imagine your home, where you all forgave each other. Imagine yourself, where you forgave – YOU!

Forgiveness always starts with you. If you are unable to forgive yourself, than in no way are you capable of forgiving others. Forgiveness is like a measuring stick, as well as a tool of judgement. For whatever length you are willing to forgive others – others can forgive you. You will feel this. It’s a tool in that if you are completely honest with yourself you will realize that when you are forgiving others it really means that you are releasing the judgement you’ve imposed upon them. Blame is judgement.

Many times when we judge others or feel anger towards something they’ve done, they don’t even know it! Because we are too afraid or ashamed of bringing it up. So we internalize it or harbor it inside of us, where it grows and grows into something that has become way out of proportion. We have completely lost perpective of the situation. Why? Because WE want to be right! Instead of talking about it, we judge. So how are you being justified by this internal anguish you feel?

We all make mistakes, no one can deny that. None of us here on earth are perfect or even anywhere close to it.  But, if we can start to learn how to forgive, than we can begin to understand what it is that our lives are all about.

Life, in part, is about compassion, forgiveness, and love. Imagine a world, or a home, or yourself, where these morals are both practiced as well as encouraged.

Make the first “step” you take in your new life – forgiveness, and all other steps will come easier.

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Jan
28

Ego

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Those who say they know, do not know. Those who say they do not know. also don’t know. Therefore, be quiet and let your actions speak for themselves. They speak much louder than your words anyway.

What an incredible obstacle to overcome.  The feeling of an ego has infultrated our society throughout all walks of life. I think alot of this has to do with self-esteem. We all want to feel accepted, and the ego provides the fuel that feeds our desire.  Why do we feel the need to be accepted? Because when we look around at  our peers, we measure our lives against theirs. We always seem to want what the other one has. Always falling short of contentment within our own lives  because of this “want”. Although this is the “norm” in society, it is not a healthy way of examining our achievements. Certainly it is not a fruitful way of measuring our personal value. We must understand that when we  look at others accomplishments, that they have no value in comparrision to ours. Many circumstances come into play that help build our own character, as well self-esteem, and never should they be measured against another.

Be satisfied with your own life and your achievments. If you want more out of your life, than simple create the path to those goals and then walk on that path. It’s really as simple as that.

Remember, you will always fall short of wanting. But you will never fall short of achieving your goals when you set them and then commit to carrying them out.

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Sep
19

Destiny

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You can look… and you will find it. You can not look… and you will find it. That which is yours will surely come to you.

Do we walk through a world where our whole life is planned outx for us? Sort of a series of pre-written chapters in a book. For some, that’s comforting because you can count on a higher power that looks out for your steps through life. Imagine it like a cause and effect process. Everything that you’ve done up until now has brought you to the very point in life that you are at. You made that left turn when you were supposed to. You made that career choice when you were supposed to, and all these steps were nessecary even to bring you to be reading this blog post at this very moment. And this will propel you into the correct direction for the next move in your life.

Some people choose to believe that they are in control of every movement they make. Every decision, every step. And sometimes this proves to be the scapegoat for their irresponsible actions. But in essence it could be destiny finding them to teach them where the right path is. Maybe what they are going through is nessecary to help others. It’s not always about us.
I believe that in the end both sides are the same. That which is yours will surely come to you.

The final question is: can we create destiny or is it a preordained path in life, or is there no such thing? It boils down to what you want to believe. We can truly never know the unanswerable question.
Some people live their life full or regrets. “Oh if I would have only done this or that”. Maybe you regret not asking that girl out in high school. Maybe you regret moving to where you live. But the fact is you didn’t ask that girl out so destiny says you weren’t supposed to. And you did move to where you now live, so destiny says you were suppose to.

Sometimes it’s a matter of the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, but the fact is that the grass will only be as green as you make it. If you live your life always “wanting”, you will never obtain anything but regret at the end of it.
Don’t waste time wanting – create your own path in life by listening to that which will find you – destiny.

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Aug
11

The Art of Change

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In Art, no movement or direction of the brush is better or worse than another. This, too, is a way to view all of life. See all the “good and bad” things that happen to you simply as movements in the art of life.

Lets face it, everybody has good days and bad ones. Sometimes the bad ones seem to linger. But no matter how bad they are you can always count on change. Change is a fact of life. It is growth. Nothing stays the same! The way you view the world in a month will be different than how you view it today. Things will happen in your life, whether good or bad, that will direct your views to change.
Yes even the good things in your life will change. But remember, change doesn’t always mean bad things will now happen. It means growth. Growth in the fact that you will learn something from the positive or negative situation that you are in.
If you sit down for some focused thinking and seriously reflect back on your life you will find this to be true. The times of change, were periods of personal growth. And a life without growth would be a very boring place to be.
If you find yourself in a situation that you don’t want to be in – simply change it.
Change your surroundings, your environment. Maybe the neighborhood you live in causes you anxiety – then move. Maybe the job you have is mundane and unfulfilling, so start searching for a new one. If you change your surroundings, you will change your mood, which in turn will change your life.
Yes some of these things take time to accomplish, such as changing the neighborhood you live in or your job. But taking no steps will always get you nowhere.
Set goals and create a clear and concise path on how to move forward in your life. Then execute that plan. Remember, all movement is change.

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Jul
29

Courage

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Find the courage to hold on to your beliefs, even if the world around you chooses to believe differently. Have the courage to change those beliefs that no longer fit the person you have become. In doing so, you truly become yourself.

Courage casts a wide net in everyones life. Some people rely on courage just to wake up in the morning because their future is unclear, which in turn makes them depressed and think “Why should I even get out of bed today”. Others require courage to confront someone who is abusing them in some way. Still others face courage to even get in an elevator.
All these life situations are a common thread among humanity. We share them and/or so many others to varying degrees.
I think the most courageous people are those who stand up for their beliefs even in the face of adversity. You’ve set a goal and with focused mind you intend to achieve it – especially when others say “you can’t do that”. Thomas Edison tried over 1000 times to create the lightbulb – thats courage.
As you grow in a foundational way through self-esteem building and the courage to stand up when adverse times abound, you’ll notice that your beliefs may subtly change the person you are. But embrace change! As much as we may resist that which is inevitable, as well as part of our life, consider change a companion who helps you grow in your beliefs and guides you on your lifes journey.
In doing so, you will become that which you are meant to be.

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Jun
27

Contentment

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Rejoice in whatever life gives you. Crave nothing else. Know that whatever you have been given is for your own highest good.

As we all know, everyday is a new experience. Life throws things at us that, when we woke up that day, would have never expected would have happened. Nevertheless, this is the reality of life. No matter how much we want to be in control of our lives, we must expect the unexpected and adapt. One thing you can always count on is change. Accept that fact and learn to integrate unexpected events when they arise and you will be in control of you life. It’s when those changes come along and we don’t know how to deal with them that we see our lives fall to pieces.

So be happy at what life offers you. It is yours! You own it.

Learning to not want what others have is a difficult lesson indeed.
The marketing and advertising world has seen to that.
There are ads wherever you look telling you that you need this new thing or that new device. It will make your life easier and you will be happy, but of course then the next thing comes out to replace that one and they say the same thing about the new item.
Learn to accept the things that you have and the gifts that you are given. Be thankful for whatever it is that your have. There are those who are much less fortunate around the world than you. You can survive on whatever you have. You can choose to be happy and content with what you have or choose not to be happy. You, again, are in control of that.
If you are always wanting what others have, you will never achieve that goal!
Spend some time thinking about that statement and see how it fits into your life.

Consider the gifts and talents you are given. Maybe you are a musician, maybe an author, or maybe your are great at sports. Whatever it is, use that gift or talent to help others in their lives, and within that very act you will find fulfillment and contentment.

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Jun
23

Concentration

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As a drowning man wants air, as the lover seeks their beloved, this is the way you must focus on that which you want. This intensity of concentration will remove all obstacles.

All that we want or wish to accomplish is obtainable! It is through focusing and concentration that we achieve our goal. If we let emotion, rather than focus and concentration, guide us, we will inevitably fail. As a tiger catches his prey, emotion will succeed in persuading us down that which is usually the wrong path. Even when it looks enviting. Thus the folly.
But when you concentrate and set your own goals – you’re stating direction. And direction has purpose. Purpose has meaning. And meaning accomplishes that which it sets out to do – goals!

Do not allow the alluring path of emotion to guide you. Always concentrate and focus on your future and you will achieve that, which at one time or another, you thought was unobtainable.

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